tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post1779170817077330769..comments2022-06-26T18:01:28.568-07:00Comments on attentionSpin: Unresolvable New Years ResolutionsMarc Solomonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-63162636022754186122010-01-26T12:08:39.738-08:002010-01-26T12:08:39.738-08:00Stace – The compulsory versus voluntary piece in P...Stace – The compulsory versus voluntary piece in Phillips’ argument has really stuck with me. I practiced unsentimental kindness last night when I tore through three pounds of 4th class fundraiser pleas from the ACLU to the Environmental Defense Fund (Doctors without borders, indeed!)Marc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-16960768491063146402010-01-26T12:03:58.296-08:002010-01-26T12:03:58.296-08:00Hey Marc,
I've just spent the quality time g...Hey Marc,<br /> <br />I've just spent the quality time giving your CD a proper listen. I loved it! Very thought provoking. <br /> <br />One thing that I continually think about is that human kindness is part of the fabric of human life. I just don't think most of us can help it because it's in our DNA, and holding it back in the age we live in is exactly antithetical to the fabric that makes us feel most natural. Or something like that.<br /> <br />Anyway - thanks very much. It was great.<br /> <br />StaceyMarc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-79369214283412226462010-01-21T08:01:55.183-08:002010-01-21T08:01:55.183-08:00Marc,
Got the CD yesterday, and I listened this mo...Marc,<br />Got the CD yesterday, and I listened this morning to the resolutions. I re-examined them here on your blog, where I had more time to consider your musings. <br /><br />Best of luck in propagating praise and touch in 2010, and resolving the uncertainty vs loss question, one with which I've wrestled as well.<br /><br />On Point is queued up, and anything involving the musical Finn brothers gets my attention. <br /><br />Best regards, mgUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05512084517706203959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-65054369225631387232010-01-18T09:30:20.085-08:002010-01-18T09:30:20.085-08:00CNK -- I thought the revisionist take on sports by...CNK -- I thought the revisionist take on sports by A. Phillips as a collaborative undertaking to produce a competition was a new carom off some old glass. What is a more enobling gesture than the handshake reception at the end of momentous hockey matches? It defies penalty minutes, criminal charges, and H1N1.<br /> <br />Alas we have seen the end of this form in our political arena where all re-election chances carry over into conference committees, betting parlors, and who one chooses for dining partners after fillibuster-proof majorities become the sole collaboration.<br /> <br />SolMarc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-44817323678860531632010-01-18T09:29:57.941-08:002010-01-18T09:29:57.941-08:00Shucks,
In law school, I learned that assault i...Shucks, <br /> <br />In law school, I learned that assault is the threat - creating apprehension; battery is the touching. I suspect that Big Fan assaulted P. Phil in the men's room (will Big Fan now have to register as a sex offender just from the sound of that crime?). Big Fan may also have committed battery by contacting P. Phil with paint. Many of these crimes likely get probation, but I suspect that jail time is within sentencing guidelines. <br /> <br />My kind movie of the week. I watched The Lives of Others (2006)(Allison could not handle the tension involving artists monitored by the Stasi in early 1980s East Germany). The movie/writing/plot got progressively better and culminates in moving acts of kindness, despite some horrible circumstances. <br /> <br />I detect ambivalence in applying the kindness doctrine to sport contests. Where rules are constructed, it should not be unkind to follow them. Nonetheless, I found the homerun assistance appropriately kind (she had earned the run, the base rounding was perfunctory, and everyone might have been there all day while she used her hands to claw her body home) and the UConn thing inappropriate (individual scoring records should not take precedence over the competitive team event). <br /> <br />As for other teams sucking, my lifelong hatred of the Yankees has made certain options unavailable to me. I would like to say that the Yankees suck, but in fact they currently do not and generally have not during my lifetime. I just stick to hatred. And frankly, I need the Yankees to be kind of good to provide an outlet for hatred, otherwise the hatred would be either unnecessarily and pathetically directed at sucky Yankees or dangerously directed elsewhere. <br /> <br />'NuckMarc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-15568559782093599272010-01-15T14:30:22.252-08:002010-01-15T14:30:22.252-08:00Kate -- Yeah, love is like truth. It stands apart ...Kate -- Yeah, love is like truth. It stands apart (along with all the attraction/isolation impulses a word can trigger)!Marc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-68446263080153149112010-01-15T14:29:36.509-08:002010-01-15T14:29:36.509-08:00Glynys – I found it inspiring to answer competitio...Glynys – I found it inspiring to answer competition with kindness (as opposed to ‘collaboration’ -- its weaker KM step cousin). King Capitalism is a chameleon that will transform itself into whatever we need it to be (preferably steady work that pays well!)Marc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-89981197663181008152010-01-15T14:25:12.714-08:002010-01-15T14:25:12.714-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Marc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-64751308334382610162010-01-15T14:21:24.248-08:002010-01-15T14:21:24.248-08:00I am famous for never checking my mailbox here so ...I am famous for never checking my mailbox here so only came across your CD and note yesterday. I finally got a moment and listened to your resolutions and the NPR On Point interview with Adam Phillips. <br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing this and sharing what is on your mind. The On Point program, in particular, echoes a lot of my own thinking lately and I thank you for drawing my attention to it. Do you know this book called The Trap by Daniel Brook? I recently read it and it is another angle on capitalism’s impact on people’s lives (and emotions). It probably isn’t a definitive work, but I found it interesting stuff. <br /><br />In the New-Year’s-Resolution-Spirit, I hope you are able this year to minimize what you need to do for money (“Work”) and maximize what gives you joy (your work with the online class). <br /><br />Regards,<br />GlynysMarc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-16890487569480265542010-01-15T14:20:25.663-08:002010-01-15T14:20:25.663-08:00Thanks for your holiday CD, too! I completely agr...Thanks for your holiday CD, too! I completely agree with your observations on touch, praise -- and I'd love to read your soft copy, and save it. <br /> <br />I'm listening now to the NPR story on the Kindness. <br /> <br />One of the most rewarding things I've done during this confusing, challenging, identity-wrenching year is to reimagine facilitation as "helping people to prepare their hearts to listen." I think that is a prerequisite to having kindness within the conversation. <br /> <br />Gil said that the common models of collaboration are government, capitalism, and community. Mediated by Structure/Fear, Markets/Greed, and Conversation/Love (my words). He's even going to use "love" in his keynote at the CBI conference. I'm wondering if I set him up for something that could backfire...What do you think? <br /> <br />KateMarc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-27925634280632883232010-01-15T14:19:16.862-08:002010-01-15T14:19:16.862-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Marc Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839716094299078734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1935093322377756041.post-19129964561658791542010-01-10T16:04:01.729-08:002010-01-10T16:04:01.729-08:00There's also the Wearing of the Mask, obscurin...There's also the Wearing of the Mask, obscuring your true self behind a false face either in the name of professionalism or politeness etc. Not sure how to verbally fit it in to your triad but it bothers me constantly as I make my way among people.sadalithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06569214726249623387noreply@blogger.com